AGAINST ALL ODDS
Written by: Palesa Pertunia Matjebele
You can never really know exactly know what is really going on in a rapist’s mind let alone a killer, questions compels us, motives intrigues us and deeds fascinates us. Questions remains unanswered in most cases but one thing for sure is that a killer is not written on anybody’s forehead, we would like to consider ourselves as sane and not capable of such acts but studies show that anybody is capable of murder, that much cannot be said about rape.
Truth is we are drawn by burning desires and driven by spontaneous events that trigger that psychological state of mind as we do not plan what to do or how to react to a certain act. Anybody can do anything; it’s all that classical tangling-twisted mystery, therefore never say never! Indeed there is no excuse to terrorise the society, that is a choice one makes for oneself but we cannot again ignore the fact that our backgrounds carve ways for our future.
No one chose to grow in an environment full of jerks, an immoral environment with no values, an environment filled with abuse, drug and substance abuse, that cold place with no love and the warmth of parents’ protection and no one chose to be violated and abandoned by the very same people meant to protect and nurture. The world can be a very cold place especially when people seem to pass by and none stays, all they do is just leave void footsteps and on they continue with their journey.
Resentment is bound to show face sooner or later, we are human beings after all. The past always find a way to catch up with us, there will come those haunting memories from the age of five, it will all come back no matter how long you put it off, even after 20 years for it is so patient on its attack streak.
The secret recipe is to deal with the past before it deals with you, what a better way to beat Karma to her own little sick games! There is no use to hurt the people you love just because you were hurt at some point in your life, we can’t all be hurt; every bad situation can be turned into a positive one as the very same event meant to destroy us can build us and the people around us. There has to be some sort of destruction before something concrete can be built; we are not defined by the number of times we fall but by the number of times we pick ourselves up and be the best version of ourselves.
You may be broken, yes but you can pick up the pieces and build your very own masterpiece; let’s quit excuses such as ‘’I killed because I am cold, nobody loved me,’’ ‘’I had a difficult upbringing’’ or ‘’I raped because I was adopted and abused.’’ So everyone must feel the kind of pain you felt? Are we building a world of broken people throughout?
Imagine if we all made people feel the magnitude of our emptiness and brokenness, how would the world be like! So cold, so empty yet full of void vessels; if everyone raped because they felt unloved by their parents, if everyone killed because they feel cheated of a life they so much deserved! There is absolutely hope at the end of the tunnel, we now have psychological therapies one may patiently undergo as a way to mend and make peace with the past and anyone can take an initiation as the less priviledged can go through the process, free of charge!
Talking helps, communication can make a significance change as bottling things up may lead to a greater destruction than words could ever do. Talk, heal, forgive and move on; truly forgiveness is not something we merely do for others, it may feel like a favour for others but it is something we do for ourselves to heal and move on because at the end of day the only person hurting is nobody but yourself, so what is the use of killing yourself with blood pressures that could lead to strokes and heart attacks while you can have the greatest peace and outlook on the future.