WARRIOR SHE IS…

SEE HER, TAKE A BOW

Written by: Palesa Pertunia Matjebele

‘’Oh Women Weak! Too damn emotional for this game…’’ Frankly, that’s what they always say on the streets. Well, firstly, how weak is she if she carried you for nine months, three full thirds of the year? How weak is she if she Consistently and Continuously carried you on her back for nothing less than three years of your life and forever in her heart? How weak is she if she survived those heart wrenching labour pains in those hours that felt like decades so that you could be brought forward into this beautiful World of opportunities?

Secondly, what emotions are you talking about? Are we not just containers filled with nothing but pure raw emotions- feelings!? Are you an Emotionless Creature? That sure doesn’t sound human at all! What game are you even talking about? Are we playing, if so what game are we supposed to be playing, since you seem to be playing like a pro? A good clean one you are playing, I hope!

Yes, make that one squeaky clean for that matter! Cause guess what, some of us do have Emotions, for we are nothing less than human and our emotions have a trigger that takes a while to get triggered but once it gets pressed on with so much pressure, goes off- all hell breaks loose. On that note; allow me to say ‘’Checkmate!’’ Yes, for we are nothing less than human so these things happen, we are not flawless after all!

Onto that game Ish again! What game are you playing and what exactly are you playing with? -Emotions? Are you not coco, perhaps? This is by far the most nuts statement in the English history, ever! Anyways don’t play yourself, Weh Mta’ka MA!

Another rewind; see that woman, take a bow or praise God for bringing forth such a fragile yet strong powerful being! Whichever comes first or befitting the context. Next time Limpopo River flows in your brains and you get nappy-headed ideas of what a woman can and cannot do, think of your life, take a mirror and do a little bit of self-introspecting. Now tell us, who made you? Yes no denying that God created you, but unto whom did He plant that hopeful seed? Yes; Thank you, now Sit down, be Humble! She made you, she gave you direction, security and nurtured you throughout, even still, she continues to add Value, Security and that Fire that just keeps you going for nothing can turn it off…

That woman right there; she a Soldier, a Captain of your boat and most of all, a Pillar of your existence! Where do you think you would be, if not for that woman by your side? She adds Value, Significance and Purpose in one’s life, behind every Man’s life or any Successful being’s journey, there is just that Woman! That woman who will always have faith in you even when all your hope is gone, that woman who will never give up on you even when you thought that it was all over for you, when you throw in on the towel, she picks it up and reminds you exactly why you even started to begin with, she just cannot bear to see you lose hope. Every Will Smith needs a Jada Pinkett, no lie!

She gives you hope when all yours is gone! She clothe you, builds you to be a Warrior, Fighter and a Conqueror at the end of it all. They come and go but she is always there, all Fired Up even! She is your cheerleader, reminding you that you can only do your best and hope for the best; to have Faith, Fight, Patience and Positivity, she sings this song to you every day that it’s even stuck to the back of your mind!

Who taught you all about the morals, all about what could possibly go wrong in this Mystery of a World? Someone testify- She did! She knows best! Seen enough to remind you That All that You Have Is Your Soul- she prepares you for the future therefore you go in there ready- not rare, not semi- rare but all ready for you have been trained by Her Majesty!

She risks what is considered ‘’Beauty’’, for Magazine says flat stomach, Tight firm bum! But no, she says No, goes against all that. Gains some extra weight from your baby weight, that potbelly, her body overwhelmingly takes on a transition that is now deemed as ‘’Ugly!’’ by the world, fat she is called! Her body stretches beyond normal, to a point where her skin can’t take it anymore. She is left with strechmarks, they say her waist should be hidden in an apron for it now looks like a volcano has erupted- Oh Warrior Of A Woman!

She goes out there, doing all sorts of things some may consider Low, for what! -So that you can go into a warm bed in a secured home, with nothing but a happy stomach. She works as a domestic worker, cleaning other people’s houses, washing cars and even making up other people’s beds and bathing all those cats and dogs! For what? –So that you can go to school and be a Lawyer, a Teacher, a Literal being in the society, a better person than she! She is name-called, but all that don’t matter to her, she is focused on the bigger picture. She is stripped out of all her dignity; she remains naked and seen as a Nobody among peers! She sacrifices all her life for you to have a Life!

Who is She? A Mother, Sister, Daughter- A Woman! Your Lady, your special somebody; your Smile keeper! Millions and millions of books can be written about this Legend of a Female, Strong and Influential Being- A Woman! Next time you choose to see her as weak and good for nothing, take a look at your life! How could you have disrespected the only one person who made you who you now are? Respect and honestly Honour to all the Ladies out there; mother or not, for you are A Mother of the Nation!

 

Kid, Adult or That Alien from Mars?

THAT CRAY-CRAY TRANSITION

-Middle-man Situation

By: Palesa Matjebele

The truth is peers influence ones outlook on life whether we would admit it or not; it’s only a human nature to learn a lot from those of the same age as you, you learn from the people around you and they in turn learn a thing or two from you too. The pressures adopted are not always bad, positive traits can also be contagious and adapted to as it does not always have to bad to be considered peer pressure.

There may be countless reasons why people fall prey to the pressures of the society, most kids fall prey in the quest to be one of the coolest kids in school, trying to fit in and basically get everyone to like them in order to avoid being bullied. The sense of everyone doing something somehow makes it right and cloud up an individual’s judgment. Imitations are a great part of every child’s life; searching for behaviors of others they can co-opt is just a normality for picking up skills and techniques of everyday life.

Adolescence is the most crucial time in any individual’s life where they are at their fragile outmost, the transition where a young person develops from a child into an adult is critically confusing. This period in life, perception is formed and a world of possibilities opens up widely; appearance, taste and new sets of values make formation, the urge to follow the crowd may also intensifies in the process. Adolescents have it harder out of all the stages of a human life, leaving that childhood comfort where everything is all so carefree and going into what is then this adult life where everyone wants you to act and behave in a certain way, together with all the brand-new responsibilities one has to take as an adult is by all means daunting!

You don’t know if you coming or going, the expectations from adults and younger ones are all so overwhelming, you are not sure how adults really act or if you should still remain how you were couple years back. When you act like an adult, they all say no you are a kid and you should act like one but then again if you go back and do the things that kids do, there they are, talking and saying that you are too childish, you should grow up and be responsible! You can never really know what the two generations you are standing in between really want from you, the experience is all so confusing. The transition is just so critical yet so rewarding once the idea gets familiar. Cliques are intensely formed in this stage where everyone wants to be much more popular than the rest of the crowd, social acceptance is by all means aimed for and unfortunately the commonly shared behaviors by majority falls into the negative-risky side of life.

Substance use, the consumption of alcohol and sexual intercourse are all initiated by the quest of social acceptance brought by the pressures of peers. Being lost in the dungeons calls for that point in time where one then seeks a sense of belonging, and the only place to really fit in and not feel like an alien would then be from peers as they are facing the same challenges as you are. Together the ‘’Never good enough’’ generation carve their own ways that are so mischievous and then again socially unacceptable like always! Truth is, a blind cannot lead the blind as none cannot see where the long roads leads.

The road to adulthood is rocky and not everyone can make it through with all the obstacles awaiting on the highway but bringing out the moral inner person is always a good resolution when you are not quite sure of which decision to make, listening to that inner voice at the back of the head does the rescuing at times, for in our mind we already know what is right and wrong, so listening to the wiser you is the answer. Finding who you instead of finding those who are facing the same demons as you are can also be very helpful, if you know who you are and what you stand for then you won’t have a problem trying to be the version of the other person but the best version of you.

Just like water, a dose of high self-esteem is needed for the road, it’s okay to feel isolated, it’s also okay to take a loss and it’s by all means normal to make mistakes like a human being you are, we all have flaws and we grow bigger and better from our own mistakes, after all nobody is perfect! Failure is expected, for we are human beings and not made out of steel, we are bound to take loss time and time again but then again, no sweat at all for it is said that we are not measured by the number of times we fall but by the number of times we get up, stand tall and soldier on like we have never ever been down for a second!

One last thing the wise advice is for one to have a positive outlook on life, feel good about yourself, believe in your ability, have self-motivation and lastly be unconditionally accepting of yourself. It’s okay to give yourself a pat on the shoulder and be proud of your accomplishments, no matter how little they may be; the feelings you have about yourself are contagious, that’s self-esteem and it literally affects everything you do.

 

Weirdo’s Got This!

EXTREME CHEAPSKATE- EXCESS-FREE BUDGET

-The lengths people will go to save money

Written by: Palesa Matjebele

With the rand constantly going up with no promise of ever dropping even a little bit, it’s of no surprise when people go to rather very extreme and sometimes shocking and unusual measures to save some extra bucks. Life is by no means care-free especially with the need to save some few hundred bucks just in case rainy days come your way; spending and saving have become two best of frenemies in this modern-day of luxurious material things that can stress out the budget and stretch it way wider than it can go.

According to statistics, almost every employed citizen is spending way more than their monthly income which then makes no room for saving as their expenses automatically outweighs their budget, as a result majority of people live-off debts to sustain their much desired lifestyle that require more than they can afford. That is mostly influenced by the society’s expectations as it is believed that a working individual has to acquire and own certain stuff to show their capabilities and success amongst peers, the society has literally built up a standard that people have to live up to as to get a sense of approval, status and respect.

Only few people have dedicated their lives to truly being happy and live within what they can afford on a daily basis, which is very brave and rare in a way. Finding a budget that really works for you can be straining but bears great fruits of benefits in the end as it totally pays off and it always does. Drawing up boundaries within your expenditure is very helpful even when it may sometimes degrades your stature amongst peers and may even result in society judging and labelling you as a pauper.

Individuals on a quest to slim up the budget may go a little overboard with the unbelievable funny stunts they pull at times, the list goes from those people who only flush their toilets only when they go for a poop and reusing water to carry out multiple tasks like watering plants with the same water used to bathe as to trim up their water bill, to those who also slim-up the electricity bills by using charged-battery lights and fire-woods to cook. The list is endless, TLC documentary of Extreme Cheapskate once aired an old lady that substituted toilet roll with a newspaper, which obviously sounds familiar and not far-fetched; another episode featured a power couple that went around fiddling the trash cans looking for expired food products and medication. All these tricks prove that the things that have been naturally given can get very expensive but only if you let them.

Well as if that the shocker was not enough; there came the banana peeler lady, well before weighing the bananas this feisty one patiently undresses them because apparently they weigh less when they are peeled and saves some few bucks and being stared at is no sweat with this one. Being labelled a weirdo is no problem when it comes to these individuals as it’s actually great for their pockets.

Starting by buying clothes on promotions together with unbranded items will certainly do no harm to your wellbeing but put a smile on your face as it saves a couple of hundred bucks, while people may find it insane and cheap to buy stuff like vegetables and clothes on downtown streets rather than a regular store, it is actually a wise move and not that weird plus it also supports small local businesses; how would you feel sleeping everyday knowing that you indirectly helped put a child through school while also saving yourself cash?

With the expenditure increase, it is by all means not worth stressing your budget for the sake of acceptance amongst peers and living like Bill Gates while your account balance is on a negative. Credit card is not always a life-saver but a ticket to bankruptcy and frustration, if its function of bailing you out during rough times is misused. So going out less and cooking your own meals including abandoning few expensive habits like drinking every other weekend is good for your bank’s health, and certainly, what’s good for your pocket is good for your health!

 

ALL TALK!

IS IT FAKE; IS IT REAL?

-Pressurised Life Of Social Media…

By: Palesa Matjebele

On the surface; life is so perfect and some fellas got it going on for them, from career all the way down to happiness. Blessings are testified everywhere, surprisingly the testimonies are shared amongst social media channels instead of churches!

Glory has surely navigated the gates of Facebook, Twitter and Instagram amongst many other social media platforms; the rain of blessings is pouring even harder. All these social mediums have become an integral part of our daily lives and it is of no wonder when individuals feel entitled to share every moment of their lives with the whole world.

Remember back then when people carried around diaries, recording their most sacred and deepest darkest secrets; When there was some sort of societal sentiment of how immorally unacceptable it was to page through someone else’s diary without their consent? Well gone are those days, and amazingly people now seem to be open, over-open if the word does exist! People now post, update their statuses with every single moment happening in their lives, be it dark or light; well funny enough, unlike with diaries, people get very upset when they don’t get likes, those pretty red hearts and comments as it shows that they were not given as much attention.

One of these days a person would bomb an ATM and post it on Facebook just as many other confessions of scams and infidelity, Facebook has turned out to be a Home Affairs branch and the nearest local Police Station amongst loyal participants. It can be amusing and sad at times, especially when a full adult of a human being, instead of lending a helping hand in the name of humanity, take a video to post for likes. A person would die while people are busy capturing the event instead of helping, for what?

The perfect way to put it would say; well, we can get carried away at times to an extent where we get overly open about every worldly encounter, even those better kept on the shush mode! When it comes to the world of internet, well people seem to overflow with no boundaries at all. I mean, even countries have barriers in the form of borders. Whatever it might be, be it free-spirited or the ooze of confidence and high self-esteem, tone it down!

As if the attention seeking tendencies were not enough, there come ‘fake freaks’! Really; so much effort all in the name of hearts and likes, you’d be surprised of the things that people do for likes. At some point in our lives, mostly in junior grades, everyone wanted to be cool and popular in the quest to fit in and be part of this ‘Ideal societal group’, we were still trying to find our feet and there was no way we could have thought of individuality as it never existed at the time.

Couple of years down the road, it’s quite shocking when you’d thought that gone were those days and somehow still witness a society with adults who have still not found themselves, their true being, still trying to be amongst the coolest by imitating the ‘idolised’ figures. Back to the energy, wow some people can really put up a great performance out there, so much so that you’d swear a person was born in a theatre, and the first thing they saw was that glorious stage!

Speaking of which, some people live in Bendo, Santon even Waterkloof while you see them every other day in the humble streets of what is now referred to as the hood; others somehow get to check in places like France, Miami and Paris but you bump into them at that local spaza shop, guess you are also there, on a vacation. As if the concealed events were not enough, you will be in your own mother’s home eating your pap and cabbage, there’s nothing wrong with that but the problem is when you make use of your free-mode privilege and boom somebody just tagged you in a post saying that they are with you at this fancy Chinese restaurant that you can’t even get your tongue to pronounce. Painful right, everyone should lie their own lie at their own expense and leave others to do the same.

When you think that you have not seen it all, that potato couch of a neighbour who didn’t even get passed grade 4 is a Doctor, Jesus! He also happens to be self-employed, owning a reputable private practice apart from working at Nelson Mandela Children Hospital, God! Facebook and Instagram life is far worse; it’s not only in Our Perfect Wedding where a posh couple would ride in a Limo today, only to fight for a two-seater of a taxi the following morning.

Guess everyone is living a perfect life behind that screen of the latest iPhone or Samsung 8; it all seems rosy on the surface, truly speaking, investing so much emotions in the internet life come with a lot of unnecessary pressure that could only lead to depression. Think of it this way, why is it that everyone look like they just are straight from the red carpet or photo shoot, all glamorous and flawless then all that changes when you bump into them on the streets; – You always think, too many Beyoncé’s right? Well, you got the answer; these smartphones and technological Apps have the ability to intensify and conceal messages sent from the other end, relax and don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

HONOURABLY REVISITING THE PAST

By: Palesa Matjebele

Over 40 years ago, June 16, 1976 saw the Youth uprising just outside Johannesburg in Soweto Township. Even though the movement came to peak in 1976, it had since been mobilised in 1974 when the apartheid-reinforcing Afrikaner language was made to be compulsory as language of instruction in the Bantu education era; the uprising was not only as a result of Education but by that of the control system as a whole, the uprising was aimed at addressing and confronting the apartheid demons that tormented the South African country where diversity was immensely shunned and deviously discouraged in any way possible.

The collaboration between the Black Consciousness Movement (BCM) and the South African Students Organisation (SASO) successfully managed to influence students of colour to detox from the slavery mentality and fight for the right to Education with no limitations, let alone boundaries; almost 10 000 students who had started with the protests in their small classrooms later gathered for a peaceful March towards the Orlando stadium, while over over 20 000 took to the streets. The peacefully marching students collided with police brutality soon after the Police ordered for the dismissal of the March, with heedlessness. Numbers of the lives lost in the fateful day meant for redemption reached whooping number of 176, where the likes of Hector Peterson’s lives were short-lived.

It is of no surprise that to this day, every year in that day, the commemoration is held in respect for the bravery and appreciation of those whose blood were shed in truth. The remarkable legacy left by the youth of 1976 is worthy of every moment of silence granted; the undeniable sacrifices that resulted in the innocent blood shed deserves equal recognition for the actions of goodwill. This is by no means just a regular holiday where citizens get a day off and where booze is freely indulged until the sun comes up the following day, and should not be treated as such!

It is not only sad but a shame, to witness an era where people find pleasure in degrading the only day meant to honour the Country’s young heroes. No equal action is expected, but certainly no action of disrespect is expected either. The concept of wearing school uniform in celebration of the day is unspeakably degraded in a way that no significance is left, it’s of wonder to see a full South African youngster benefiting from all the rewards of even better, Free Education sporting a neatly ironed dungarees, shirt, tie and a shining pair of shoes only to go to some shady drunkard place.

Indeed, there is a huge transition from the youth of 1976 and the youth of today, but the transition is not that one can be proud of. The actions of the 1976 youth clearly demonstrated what they really stood for and education was seemingly an integral part of their daily lives, well the same can’t be said about the modern youth of today as the forever revised curriculum to their advantage is not thoroughly utilised. Surely there must be perceptual misinterpretations along the lines of liberation and the purpose as a whole.

South African Defence Force Demonstrates Readiness And Capability

SA ARMY READY FOR EXERCUTION

By: Palesa Matjebele

The South African Military Force took to its home town Mangaung, the city of ‘’Siwelele’’ in Bloemfontein on Thursday the 18th of May to demonstrate the South African National Defence team’s capability and readiness for the country’s defence against the enemies threatening the social, security and economic state of affairs.

Demonstrational activities were showcased in De Burg Training Centre where the Defence team of men and women in the Force took to the fields in showcase of the intensely readiness skills, while most importantly preparing combat ready land-forces with advanced tactics, techniques and procedures. Intense activities included the utilising the rope techniques, the drop zone where the flying and landing on the ground is critical, the mobility demonstration using Amour vehicles and also the direct attack demonstration where instead of imaginary enemy, real subject is used instead, and the soldiers did the physical test amongst themselves.

Chief of South African Army, Lieutenant Yam explained the motion of activity as ‘’… Capability Demonstration shows that as the South African Army we stand by our constitutional principles in government whose orders we patriotically execute to make our Continent a better place for all our people to live in.’’

The demonstration also acts as an insertion of knowledge into Citizens who will in turn support and sustain the Army with the attained understanding. The demonstration significantly hit the continents’ military memory lane as the event is held in the same Month as the 54th birthday celebration of the African Union Organisation, of which was first established with aims to adopt unity and encourage peace in the continent while joining forces for the economic growth.

Chief of South African Army, Lieutenant General Yam explains that “As the South African Army, our manpower, hardware and combat capability covers a wide range of battle space competences that ensure that we successfully prosecute our domestic border control duties and our standing force commitment towards peace and security operations on the continent under the United Nations and the African Union,” while assuring citizens that despite all the Economic hurdles, members of defence are ready to overcome all the challenges with the man power they have ready for deployments and states that the Force appreciates the little increase of 0.95 percent to the already tightly close to impossible budget.

The South African military defence team pledge to fully avail themselves to serve for the improvement of the African people in a vow formally made by the Commander-in-Chief together with the South African President, Mr Jacob Zuma when he made a commitment to the continued regional and continental support with the processes needed to be taken in order to respond and resolve crises, promote peace and security while also strengthening the regional relationships based on mutual respect.

SA Army aims to promote peace and stability throughout African continent while working towards the 2063 Agenda to work towards a peaceful, prosperous and unified Africa where all African citizens feel equally secured at all times.

Lieutenant General; L. Yam said that “the role of the SA Army was fundamentally changed by the commotions of the early 90s, and after the incorporation of the Army into the new South African National Defence Force post 1994;’’ while also emphasising that even though the number of women in the army have increased over the years and women being in the leadership front, it is not out of the quest for equality but out of the ability and capability of an individual and nobody is forced to be in the military as it is a choice one takes out of their own will to serve the Nation.

 

#FeesMustFall Saga Over The Years

TITS UP AGAINST VIOLENCE

By: Palesa Matjebele

#FeesMustFall all started in 2015 when students protested for no fee increase towards higher education after Blade Nzimande confirmed that there would be an 8% increase, after intense protests that took place the government had no choice but to comply with the students’ requests.

Second episode of #FeesMustFall then made a return in 2016 where students demanded that they be given a free education but the issues were broad and did not only focus specifically on education; there were various other issues that were brought to light, amongst others were colonialism as black students took it upon themselves to fully address all the boundaries they were still restricted to even in the new South Africa of democracy and equality. Students also wanted all apartheid statues removed as they were seen as remarks of insults to black students and lecturers.

Witwatersrand university students were so determined to get their voice across even when the police force tried to control the situation by what they considered to be a form of violence against innocent students who were fighting for their promised fair and equal rights. Students also retaliated and threw stones and bricks back at the police but when they were fired stun grenades and rubber bullets, but things got pretty interesting when three female students unexpectedly took their shirts off and the protest turned out to be a protest against police enforcing unnecessary violence on students.

The act received a lot of mixed reactions from the public after the videos and pictures quickly made their fair share of rounds on the social media, people took on to twitter and Facebook to comment and share their opinions as we all have the right to utter our opinions on anything, everyone instantly became an opinion specialist for whatever reasons.

Some comments showed support while some funnily labelled as the naked ninjas and some comments were just not so kind with the comic Skhumba Hlophe of Khaya FM radio station went as far as to making body-shaming comments on three women where he said that their breasts were not appealing and not worthy to be shown off plus they had stretch marks and big tummies, he even made comments about the University being a disappointment for not having students who were sexy enough or beautiful enough. He jokingly said that at least only if they had tennis-ball like breast then it would have been better unlike having sagging breasts on display, the institution was associated with SASSA for their accepting requirements and policies.

Hlengiwe Ndlovu, who was at the time working on thesis towards her PHD explained the significance of the brave act to Times Live newspaper saying “The moment that we stepped into the protest‚ because as much we were displaying the intolerance of violence‚ at the same time‚ it was a form of resistance to say the very same woman’s body is capable of ceasing fire and no one from national or local government could stop it,” it was all about showing the power of a woman’s body.

An online with over 3 000 signatures was soon signed, with request that Skhumba be removed from the Dj line-up until he apologised as he was disrespectful to women in general. He later made comments on Instagram via another video where he explained that “The worst thing in life is to be misunderstood. I would like to say to all the women that were affected, I would really like to apologise…If it sits wrong with you I am really sorry and I hope we find a way forward from this.”

The whole concept of going topless was seen pulling a daredevil which then led to misinterpretations, but it meant no harm as its purpose was to get the message across and symbolises power as a woman’s body is that strong, it endures a lot of pain and torture in many cases yet it still reigns with pride.